Tools built on the KNOWN Framework.
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Regulate, Read, Respond
The KNOWN course. The method behind every tool on this page, and the best place to begin, including for homeschooling families.
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KNOWN Parent
The complete course and guided journal, built on the full KNOWN Framework.
Help for the moment
Lifelines. For the difficult moment already happening.
Lying
You want to build honesty, not just punish dishonesty. But in the moment you overcorrect or let it slide. This guide gives you the response that builds trust instead of breaking it. It works on Attunement and Belonging, the conditions under which a child can afford to tell the truth. Full guide plus a 5 page quick reference.
Supports
Attunement, Belonging
Grows
Discernment and independent thought, Agency
Format
Parent guide (24 pages) and 5 page quick reference
Evidence
Moral development research (Supported); attachment research (Established)
$ 22 USD
Rudeness and Disrespect
You cannot let it go, but the line between addressing the behavior and shaming the child is hard to find in real time. This guide gives you that line and the words to walk it. It works on Belonging and Attunement, so the limit lands without the shame. Full guide plus a 5 page quick reference.
Supports
Belonging, Attunement
Grows
Relational capacity, Self understanding
Format
Parent guide (24 pages) and 5 page quick reference
Evidence
Self determination theory (Supported); attachment research (Established)
$ 22 USD
Sibling Conflict
One is crying, one is defending themselves, and both need you on their side at once. This guide shows you how to hold both without losing either. It works on Belonging and Attunement for each child, so neither has to win your attention. Full guide plus a 5 page quick reference.
Supports
Belonging, Attunement
Grows
Relational capacity, Meaning making
Format
Parent guide (24 pages) and 5 page quick reference
Evidence
Attachment research (Established); sibling and conflict research (Supported)
$ 22 USD
Public Meltdowns
The meltdown you could handle at home. It is the audience that breaks you. This guide handles the meltdown, the crowd, and the part of you that wants to disappear. It works on Safety and Connection when both are hardest to provide. Full guide plus a 5 page quick reference.
Supports
Safety, Connection
Grows
Self understanding, Adaptability with integrity
Format
Parent guide (24 pages) and 5 page quick reference
Evidence
Co regulation and stress physiology (Established)
$ 22 USD
I Hate You
They said it, it landed, and you did not know what to say. This guide gives you the words for the moment and the conversation for after. It works on Safety and Attunement, so the rupture becomes a repair. Full guide plus a 5 page quick reference.
Supports
Safety, Attunement
Grows
Relational capacity, Self understanding
Format
Parent guide (24 pages) and 5 page quick reference
Evidence
Attachment and rupture and repair research (Established)
$ 22 USD
When They Won't Listen
You ask once, twice, and by the third time your voice has changed. This guide stops the cycle before it starts. It works on Connection and Appropriate challenge, so cooperation grows from the relationship rather than from volume. Full guide plus a 5 page quick reference.
Supports
Connection, Appropriate challenge
Grows
Agency, Relational capacity
Format
Parent guide (24 pages) and 5 page quick reference
Evidence
Self determination theory (Supported); attachment research (Established)
$ 22 USD
Big Feelings at Bedtime
The stalling, the getting up, the sudden fears. Bedtime has become the hardest part of your day. This guide ends the battle without ending the warmth. It works on Safety and Connection at the moment of separation. 24 page guide plus a 5 page quick reference.
Supports
Safety, Connection
Grows
Self understanding, Adaptability with integrity
Format
Parent guide (24 pages) and 5 page quick reference
Evidence
Attachment and co regulation research (Established)
$ 22 USD
The Tantrum Guide
Your child loses it and you either lose it too or freeze. This guide gives you what to do from the first sign to the full storm to the moment it passes. It works on Safety and Connection, the conditions a child needs most when their nervous system is flooded. Full guide plus a 5 page quick reference.
Supports
Safety, Connection
Grows
Self understanding, Relational capacity
Format
Parent guide (24 pages) and 5 page quick reference
Evidence
Co regulation and stress physiology (Established); attachment research (Established)
$ 22 USD
Grow over time
Roots. For giving the conditions a place in daily life, so capacities grow over months and years.
You Have a Voice
Some children learn early that their voice is welcome; others learn it is not worth the air it takes. This guide builds a child who knows what they have to say matters, starting with you. It works on Attunement and Belonging, and grows Agency and Discernment and independent thought from them.
Supports
Attunement, Belonging
Grows
Agency, Discernment and independent thought
Format
Foundational guide with daily practices
Evidence
Self determination theory (Supported); attachment research (Established)
$ 34 USD
You Are Safe and Loved
A child who feels safe as a baseline fact, not something conditional, has access to everything: curiosity, creativity, and connection without fear underneath. This guide builds that felt safety. It works on Safety and Connection, the first two developmental conditions, and grows Self understanding and Relational capacity from them.
Supports
Safety, Connection
Grows
Self understanding, Relational capacity
Format
Foundational guide with daily practices
Evidence
Attachment research (Established)
$ 34 USD
You Can Do Hard Things
Most parents accidentally prevent resilience by rescuing too quickly. This guide shows you how to build it, not by making things harder, but by being the right kind of present when things are hard. It works on Appropriate challenge and Connection, and grows Adaptability with integrity and Agency from them.
Supports
Appropriate challenge, Connection
Grows
Adaptability with integrity, Agency
Format
Foundational guide with daily practices
Evidence
Stress physiology (Established); self determination theory (Supported)
$ 34 USD
You Matter
The child who needs to be the best, seeks constant approval, or falls apart at criticism has not yet received enough evidence that their worth is unconditional. This guide builds that evidence. It works on Belonging and Connection, and grows Self understanding and Meaning making from them.
Supports
Belonging, Connection
Grows
Self understanding, Meaning making
Format
Foundational guide with daily practices
Evidence
Attachment research (Established); self worth and perfectionism research (Supported)
$ 34 USD
Complete systems
Bundles. The full framework, applied.
Full Roots Series
All 4 Roots guides: the foundational work that happens between the hard moments. You Are Safe and Loved, You Matter, You Can Do Hard Things, You Have a Voice. Together they help you build the developmental conditions into daily life, and they are built on the principles of the KNOWN Framework. Retail $136, bundle $99. Save $37.
Supports
Built on the principles of the KNOWN Framework
Grows
Built on the principles of the KNOWN Framework
Format
Four foundational guides with daily practices
Evidence
Attachment research, stress physiology (Established); self determination theory (Supported)
$ 99 USD
Full Lifelines Series
All 8 Lifelines guides: every hard moment covered, with word for word language and a quick reference for each. Every guide names the condition that is thin in that moment and how to restore it. Retail $176, bundle $129. Save $47.
Supports
Safety, Connection, Attunement, Belonging
Grows
Relational capacity, Agency, Self understanding
Format
Eight parent guides, each with a quick reference
Evidence
Co regulation and attachment research (Established); self determination theory (Supported)
$ 129 USD
Daily Friction Pack
The moments that happen every day and wear you down every time. The Tantrum Guide, Big Feelings at Bedtime, and When They Won't Listen. Three guides that work on Connection, Attunement, and Appropriate challenge. Retail $66, bundle $49. Save $17.
Supports
Connection, Attunement, Appropriate challenge
Grows
Agency, Relational capacity
Format
Bundle of parent guides with quick references
Evidence
Attachment research (Established); self determination theory (Supported)
$ 49 USD
The Complete Library
All 12 guides across both series: every hard moment and every foundation, in one bundle. Built on the principles of the KNOWN Framework. Retail $312, bundle $199. Save $113.
Supports
Built on the principles of the KNOWN Framework
Grows
Built on the principles of the KNOWN Framework
Format
All twelve guides, Roots and Lifelines
Evidence
Attachment research, stress physiology (Established); self determination theory (Supported)
$ 199 USD
Hard Conversations Pack
The conversations you cannot see coming. I Hate You, Lying, and Rudeness and Disrespect, for the moments that demand something in the next ten seconds. Three guides that work on Attunement, Belonging, and Safety. Retail $66, bundle $49. Save $17.
Supports
Attunement, Belonging, Safety
Grows
Relational capacity, Discernment and independent thought
Format
Bundle of parent guides with quick references
Evidence
Attachment and repair research (Established); moral development research (Supported)
$ 49 USD
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