A No That Holds, Without the Guilt

How to set a boundary and keep it, kindly, with room for your child to be upset. You get words for saying what you will do instead of asking again, a way to tell which things need a boundary and which are your child's to choose, seven everyday hard moments with words to say, and how to keep the boundary while your child cries or protests. One guide for ages 2 to 10, with a 5 page quick guide and fill-in pages for your family's boundaries.
Supports
Feeling safe, knowing what to expect
Ages
Ages 2 to 10. One guide covers every age, with notes for when a child needs a different approach.
Format
A full guide and a 5 page quick guide, in one PDF
Sources
Sources and context are listed near the end of the full guide.
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Plain words and everyday steps, with the sources listed at the end.
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Sound Familiar?

I ask him to turn off the show five times, then I yell.
Leaving the park ends in tears every single time.
I said no, she cried, and I gave in. Again.
Getting out the door in the morning takes everything I have.

The Moment

Inside: a full guide, a short quick guide to print or keep on your phone, and fill-in pages for your family's boundaries.

What you receive

Everything inside, for every age from 2 to 10.

Say what you will do

Why a request is not a boundary, and words that need nothing from your child.

Yours or theirs

Which things need a boundary, which are your child's to choose, and how to tell when a rule turns into control.

Seven hard moments

Screens, leaving the park, getting out the door, the car seat, bedtime, hitting and not listening, with words to say.

Room to be upset

How to keep the boundary while your child cries or protests, and how to repair when it goes wrong.

What is inside

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